Shark
Punching
By
Tammy Derouin
Life
is demanding, extremely difficult and is far from fair. How we are
taught or encouraged to deal with difficult situations, beginning at
a young age, determines how we adapt, accept and handle the
situations which come our way.
We've
all watched toddlers topple over or bump into something. How you
respond is very important because they will usually mimic your
reaction. If you look concerned or worried, their little questioning
frown will get much deeper and may turn into unnecessary wailing.
But, if you make light of it, they recover much quicker. Shaking it
off with a smile encourages them to shake it off with a smile.
They've just learned that a little boo boo doesn't have to be a show
stopper and disappointment doesn't mean the world is coming to an
end.
Children
need to be encouraged to pick themselves up, brush themselves off and
start all over again. As adults, we know life is a never ending
challenge. We will fall, have many setbacks and endure many hardships
during the course of our life. Picking yourself up after a setback
and learning how to brush off the elements which wish to cripple or
destroy you is a life-long challenge. You will start over many times.
The key is to never give up.
Society
has done a great disservice by trying to soften every learning
experience. Life is not only challenging but life hurts. Cuts and
bruises remind us of prior experiences. They may cause us to pause
and reevaluate our current situation to avoid future mishaps.
Emotional bruises serve a purpose as well. Surviving difficult
situations and understanding certain types of harmful behavior may
prevent future heartache or misfortune. Scars, physical or mental,
are our reminders that something went wrong. They can be used as a
reference to avoid future wrong turns.
For
some reason the school of hard knocks became politically incorrect
over the past generation. Society decided to interfere with life's
lessons in an attempt to make life easier. Being overly protective
became the new normal. Wrapping a generation in bubble wrap and
handing every kid a trophy to avoid hurt feelings has been a
disaster. Everyone is not a winner and that's OK. Losing teaches
valuable lessons. Giving everyone a trophy reduces the value of the
prize. Why try harder or at all if the outcome is the same?
We,
as a society and a nation, shall reap what we sow. We can either
teach the kind of behavior which will encourage strength and
independence or we can encourage dependency which will produce
individuals who are attached to their cribs, blankets and thumbs.
This
past week two examples of very different realities crossed my path.
The
first involved a cry closet which was installed in a university
library out west. The purpose of this cry space was to help students
get through finals. If students were feeling anxious or stressed out
they could lock themselves in the closet for a good cry and cuddle
with stuffed animals.
The
second was a book called Make
Your Bed written
by Admiral William H. McRaven (U.S. Navy Retired). Perhaps you came
across a video circulating on social media of Admiral McRaven
addressing the graduating class at the University of Texas at Austin
in 2014. I saw it several months ago but came across the book this
past week. Admiral McRaven highlighted the ten lessons he learned
from Navy SEAL training. The lessons can be applied in everyone's
life.
Needless
to say, I'm a fan of the philosophy which involves making your bed.
Making my bed, before I left the house was instilled in me as a
child. It remains to this day as one of my first daily
accomplishments. You never really know what the day has in store for
you. Life is full of sharks. Learning how to navigate through such
situations takes years of practice. Simply knowing that sharks are
out there keeps you prepared and on alert. Some sharks enjoy
taunting, just to see if they can get a reaction out of you. You
learn to ignore such childish behavior. Others are out to attack
just because they can so they circle, waiting for the right moment.
There
will be days when you have to stare down a shark. Sometimes you may
even have to punch it to protect yourself from harm. At the end of
every day, but certainly on days of successful shark punching, coming
home to find my first accomplishment is very rewarding.
“Without
courage, men will be ruled by tyrants and despots. Without courage,
no great society can flourish. Without courage, the bullies of the
world rise up. With it, you can accomplish any goal. With it, you
can defy and defeat evil.”
Admiral
William H. McRaven
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