March 15, 2017
Blankie and Binkie
By Tammy Derouin
It seems like
whining and crying has become the favored pastime for many people. I
didn't hear this kind of senseless bellyaching or see these kinds of
tears and temper tantrums when I used to take my girls to daycare.
But then again, the daycare/learning center I used didn't put up with
such nonsense. As the older, yet preschool aged children, grew and
learned how to socially interact, certain behavior was expected.
Rules were in place with appropriate consequences for those who
needed the occasional reminder.
We encourage children to develop skills
which allow them to take care of their own needs. It doesn't matter
to the child if more than half the food lands down the front of them
or on the wall and floor. What's important to them is that they are
trying to do it themselves. Their encouragement to succeed is the
desire to eat. Eventually, more lands in the target area. They're
happy they can do it. You're happy you don't have to do it and the
mess they make eventually dwindles, hopefully. No matter how many
times they fail, they never give up. They want to do “it”
themselves.
It would be crazy to discourage
independence. Have you ever witnessed a parent or caregiver
discourage a child from eating with utensils, drinking from a cup or
insist on the diaper over the potty? That would be insane! We want
our children to grow and learn, to stand on their own two feet. Each
challenge they face prepares them for the next one. It's exciting to
watch as they realize they have achieved a new skill.
With new skills come new challenges. We can't wait for them to talk
but then struggle to keep them quiet. We teach them to walk and then
spend years running after them. We want them to think and figure
things out for themselves but go toe to toe when they are making the
wrong decision. As they learn, they also discover freedom. It doesn't
take long before they push and test their limits. They quickly
understand, upon achieving a new skill, that it reduces their
dependency.
As they develop
into older children and young adults, there is hope that the lessons
they've learned will pay off as they make their way into the real
world. But, there's the problem. Far too many children in our far
too liberal society have been told that everyone is a winner. Too
many awards have been handed out for so little achievement. In the
real world, not everyone makes the team, gets the desired job or
lives their fantasy dream. Did anyone stop to think about the
downside of wrapping the kids in bubble wrap and handing everyone a
trophy?
We are creating an overly sensitive and dependent society. People,
young people, are being conditioned that they cannot function or they
are not capable of achieving something because of, what? Fill in the
blank. There is an excuse for everything. The fault will always
belong to someone else. After all, a generation grew up watching the
president assign blame and promote dependency. Personal
responsibility has been discarded for a blankie and a binkie.
Life is not fair. You get hurt and you
will struggle. Life is far from easy but in this great country of
ours, your life belongs to you. You have the right to life, liberty
and the pursuit of happiness. Happiness is not a guarantee but you
have the right to chase after whatever you think will make you happy.
Nobody can control how they came into this world but in the United
States, you have the freedom to attempt to change your circumstances.
The absolute failure of our educational
system has been on full display for several months. If students
don't get what they want they throw a temper tantrum. They whine,
cry and disrupt those who have a different opinion. Words, speech,
pictures and history are just too offensive for their delicate
sensitivities. Reality is too intense for them. Instead of turning
out individuals who are capable of dealing with loss, failure or
disappointment, the educational system has constructed a U-turn. All
the basic skills which were the foundation to further their
independence were used to walk and talk themselves right back to
their blankie and binkie at the daycare.
It is truly sad but I also think it's
criminal that the history of the United States is no longer a
priority. The Department of Education has robbed at least one
generation of knowledge when it comes to our history. If people
understood the history of the United States and how fortunate they
are to live here, people wouldn't be protesting and saying they are
oppressed, in the land of the free.
“The Constitution only gives people
the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.”
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