June 26, 2013
All Points North
By Tammy Derouin
The word Karma was mentioned in a conversation I was part of
this past week. Although it was said for a different reason, the reminder
couldn’t have come at a better time. I
believe everything happens for a reason.
I developed a love for history and heritage at a very early
age. History and heritage collided when
I went to Northern Michigan for the first time. I was twelve.
My heritage is French/Canadian and my interests quickly turned to all
points north. Northern Michigan is full
of French and Canadian influence. Was
this heaven on earth?
Travers City and Charlevoix are two of my favorite stops as
I travel to the jewel, Mackinaw. The
city and the island are full of historic sites.
The Mackinac Bridge is my beacon.
When others head south, I prefer to head north, regardless of the time
of year.
I had hoped to share this love of history and heritage with
my girls. I wanted to wait until they
were a little older so they would be able to appreciate the experience.
Karma is the belief that your actions today will determine
how life treats you tomorrow. I grew up
with the Golden Rule; do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Living by this philosophy doesn’t guarantee
you will be treated well but it establishes a code of conduct. Living by the Golden Rule allows me to look
in the mirror with the knowledge that I didn’t intentionally hurt or cause
someone harm. There are times when
difficult decisions must be made.
Someone, and usually more than one, will end up being hurt. Avoiding the decision inflicts pain on
yourself and eventually those around you.
It’s like pulling off a Band-Aid.
You know it must be done. You can
linger, slowly tearing one hair out at a time, causing much discomfort or you
can pull it off and be done with it. Oh,
there will be pain but much less than the endless suffering you are putting
yourself through by hesitating. Most
painful decisions, regardless how much better you know your life would be,
require much thought and consideration.
Such life altering decisions aren’t made in haste.
It’s easy to be strong and to say everything happens for a
reason when life is going well. An
individual’s strength and character are tested when they’re under attack. My nemesis delivered such a blow this past
week. I was informed that my girls would
be traveling to Northern Michigan. All
points of interest to me would be covered.
He waited until we were face to face to give me this news. Northern Michigan is a location he never
wanted to visit again. He has nothing
nice to say about the area. I endured
many derogatory remarks about my French heritage, usually along the lines of
running from a fight. Well, this French
Lady decided to fight. I joined the
resistance and didn’t back down.
Controllers will use anything and everything to get their
way or to attack you if you go against them.
To say it doesn’t hurt would be a lie.
I’m human. I’m not made of steel
like the Mighty Mac. A controller will
only win if you allow them to win. I
wrestled with a dagger to the heart this past week but I didn’t allow it to
control me. I will not allow it to
change my philosophy on life. To do unto
him as he has done unto me would be the beginning of my self-destruction.
My crime; I refused to be controlled. I drew my line. I said enough was enough and walked
away. I angered the one who thought he
was all powerful. I’ve been dodging
bullets and an occasional bomb ever since.
I will take a little comfort in knowing he just spent money and time
traveling to places he never wanted to see again.
When others use personal knowledge and information as a
weapon against you for the sole purpose of inflicting pain, the Golden Rule is
still the best principle to follow. It
allows you to have a clear conscience.
When our government has knowledge of our personal
information just because it wants to, we as a nation become vulnerable to
attack. Information is powerful. That’s why the government is eliminating the
press. That’s also why the government
wants to know everything about everyone.
Humans have the ability to be petty and vindictive. Allowing the government to get away with such
behavior will lead our nation down the path of self-destruction.
“He who knows best knows how little he knows.”
Thomas Jefferson